Don’t Surrender to Invisible
A Better Day is Comin’
35-Day Author Blog Challenge – Day 17
A young man has been on my heart lately. My younger brother’s worker who was just twenty-five years old. On the outside *Bobby looked and acted fine, happy even. “A hard worker. A farmer’s kid,” Don said, stunned when he received the news of Bobby’s death from the equally shell-shocked mother.
“He just didn’t show up to work. I never expected to hear this.”
Twice Bobby’s age, Don couldn’t get his mind around the loss of such a nice, seemingly well-adjusted kid. My brother grieved. Is still grieving. We all are. I recall how pleased Don was early last summer when he hired Bobby, the man with the good work ethic.
Yes, Bobby worked hard and kept his mouth shut. He didn’t raise any flags or cause any trouble. Since his death, Don has taken a closer look at the life of his employee, a man he valued and considered his friend despite the difference in their ages. My brother learned about some of Bobby’s challenges that he wasn’t aware of before. Hidden things that Bobby struggled with. Difficult-to-discern problems only a few knew about.
Challenges others could have advised him on had they only known. But neither his friends nor Don really knew the details of what life was like day-in and day-out.
How like Retinitis Pigmentosa is that? How like our invisible struggle!
To the world we look as if nothing out of the ordinary is going on. There are no tell-tale signs, except for the tripping over obstacles we don’t see. Our challenges are invisible unless someone looks close-up at our lives day-in and day-out.
I know. As our vision loss progresses, so do the challenges. They get bigger and harder to hide. They can feel overwhelming.
I lived in denial for twenty-five years. I told so few people. I didn’t want to share that vulnerable part of myself or believe it existed because my life would change. Admitting that all was not what it appeared was like admitting to weakness – in my mind.
How silly – and yet that’s how many of us with RP live for a long time.
In frustration because we’re carrying around secret challenges.
It gets darker and darker so we can’t see a better day is comin’.
I so wish I could have told Bobby, “Don’t let these times of challenge define you. Don’t let them decide your life. A better day is comin’.”
It’s always coming. People care. They just don’t understand what’s going on.
Let’s not surrender to invisible – the things no one sees outwardly.
Those with RP have a hidden genetic disease that affects our eyes, that play tricks on us. We can’t see an object though it’s there. So we trip and fall. Sometimes we get hurt. In a moment, someone lends a hand or we pick ourselves up. The light comes from somewhere – a night light, a lamp, a window. Inside ourselves. God.
The light of hope. A better day is comin’.
Bobby had a hidden frame of mind that affected his morale. For a moment, his mind played tricks on him. He couldn’t see the the way ahead, though it was there. He tripped and fell over some obstacles – maybe only one. Maybe everything seemed blurry. He didn’t feel for the hands waiting to help him up. Or search for the glimmers of light from somewhere. Even inside himself.
He missed the light of hope. That a better day was comin’.
Friends, please don’t surrender to invisible.
If people don’t understand your challenges, overcome that reticence. Make them aware. Don’t entrench yourself in denial, anger, bitterness or give in to the temporary.
Find the light- as evasive as it may be.
A better day is comin’
You’ll see it.
Do you see the light grains are wider than the dark? That’s the light of hope.
There’s always a better day coming.
*Bobby is a fictitious name for a real person.
Can you think of a time in your life when things looked dark – physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially? How did it change? How did you see the light of hope? Share it in the comments below.
You have just read, “Don’t Surrender to Invisible,” by Amy L. Bovaird. Copyright September 29, 2015.